Every day in my social media streams I see a handful of 15 reasons to ____ or 7 way to ____ and it is driving me crazy because I'm in marketing, I see what you're doing there, but also because I have been doing this for nine years which means I am an overbearing preachy know it all who had to code her own sidebar content boxes that weren't even called widgets yet uphill both ways in blogspot and do you even know what FTP is? Get off my CSS.
But thankfully, my dear friend Denise Tanton reminded me - with her signature graceful eloquence - that there are multitudes of opinions about how we write blog posts, which work together to create a vast and diverse blogosphere, and each viewpoint is as valuable and important as the others.
And she even went so far as to demonstrate her point for me. Read it here. And that got me thinking about all the great (read: not pseudo-marketing formulaic SEO click bait pointlessly numbered) list-posts I've read over the years, and the few I'd even written myself (there are a few here, here, and here) before I decided no one should write them anymore, and that somehow turned into a group of us co-chairing The Sigmund and Freud Cross-Dressing Six Flags Sexy Sexy Safari Tours, or something like that.
I'm not entirely sure.
The internet moves fast.
Keeping up is hard.
Awesomely enough, this random post I was writing so I could keep avoiding the giant herd of elephants in this here room on the internet has somehow brought me around to that giant herd of elephants in this here room of the internet, comprised of everything I haven't found a way to publish yet, for one reason or another.
The human psyche is a dick.
Bygones. I needed a segue into the rest of my life, because really, two months of dodging elephants is exhausting. Also, not as good for the glutes as you'd guess.
And so partly to let Denise know that I heard her, and hopefully avoid getting thrown into the lesbian tiger pit (though if it's the lesbian cougar pit, SIGN MY SHIT UP) and more-partly because I now have more posts in draft than I do published, I thought I would write a list post of my own, wherein I gloss over a whole lot of pretty important information* that really should go into a series of long, deep, meaningful posts, or, you know, MY BOOK, but you know.
Things ain't nobody got time for:
HOLY DIGRESSION. I think it's time to just list out everything I'm not writing, and then maybe start publishing all the posts I have in draft line item number by line item number.
Color by numbers blogging. And I bitch about the list-makers.
- I moved.
- To Northern California.
- And to Busy Dad.
- Over the first week of July, which was in-between BlogHer Food and BlogHer 13. Which is the perfect time to move.
- If you hate yourself.
- But I hate Arizona, and love Busy Dad, more. So I moved.
- And here is where I have to give my kids' father massive props for letting us go, because really, he totally could have said no and then we would have been stuck in that god-awful place for like ever and really, i would rather not-quite-die but you know what I mean than stay there one more day.
- Of course, he has been nothing short of a
- Chump ass
- Crying in his beer
- To me ever since we moved, but he let me move. There am I happy.
- And I know he's reading this, which is a lot of why I can't write anything anymore, because try having your ex of 20 years read your diary as you write it, but I found and read some of his journals, too, so quid pro quo, bitches.
- And of course my daughter started having massive panic attacks the day before I left for BlogHer '13.
- And her fish died the morning I left.
- Because GAH.
- But my teenage son stopped talking about killing himself.
- No, I am not telling you which one. That's his business.
- But you should watch this video from VOTY or read the post here on Adrienne Jones' blog No Points for Style, because we have to be talking more about our kids' mental health as a community and I for one have no idea how or where to start, so I am eternally grateful that she started for us.
- Also, I got to spend, like, quality time with
- at VOTY.
- There isn't one single picture of us together.
- But man does she say Mistah Laydee just riiiiiight.
- And now BlogHer is over and I am at the doctor kind of a lot with my daughter, who seemed to turn a really large corner a few weeks ago and is even putting herself to sleep at night again.
- Baby steps on the bus.
- And then I learned exactly how fun it feels to have your child tell you he hates you
- And mean it
- And have reasoning and facts backing up why
- And not being able to do a thing about it, because being the sober parent means you get to take the punches and keep wobbling back up and being the consistent, even, rational, not-emotionally-outbursty one and just hope he remembers it on the other side.
- Which I think/hope he will, because holy SHIT do I love him
- Even if I never even wrote a post for him on his 15th birthday which was 4 1/2 months ago
- Best. Blogger. Ever.
- But I'm getting much better at Facebook
- Which really isn't something I ever wanted to brag about, but here I am, checking Facebook alone in the dark and getting busted by my step-son who makes really funny faces at you when you get busted checking Facebook alone in the dark
- But not as funny as this face
- Nothing is as funny as that face
- Except maybe watching BusyDad load up a grocery belt
- But that is a story for another day.
And hopefully now I can start writing it.
*For me. It's possible that maybe it isn't as important for you.