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Sunday
Mar162008
BFF means Best Friends Forever
Sunday, March 16, 2008 at 7:16PM
A long time ago, I met a girl named Molly.
We were gangly with the bad hair and the budding taste in music and the angsty poetry when we met. We dug each other; not overly, but just enough. Occasionally, I would glance over at her from across the classroom/cafeteria/friends basement, and I would see something. I never really knew what it was, but it was something and it was there.
One day, I figured out what it was. I was seeing forever.
Is that not the cheesiest thing you have ever heard? It's totally true, yo.
Molly and I eased quietly, cautiously, almost unknowingly into an epic love story that will go on for ages after us. More than my parents, more than any man I have ever loved, I need her. I love her the way I love my kids; unconditionally, painfully, brutally, eternally.
She is everything I wish I could be. She is brave, she is fearless. She is powerful and brilliant and wise. She is kind and compassionate and understanding and patient. She is up front, in your face, no nonsense. She is amazing in every single way.
I honestly, I kid you not, cannot believe that she is still my friend, my best friend, my one sure bet for the rest of my life. I couldn't tell you why she has stuck with me all these years, but by god, she has been right by my side through thick and thin. She watches me make the same mistakes over and over again, and she holds my hand as I stumble so the fall won't quite so bad and then she helps me to my feet again and again.
And then she hands me a smoke and a shot.
She's just that kind of girl.
She gets me the way almost no one gets me, and I'd bet she knows what my next move is even before I do. She is fiercely loyal to all of those lucky enough to be called her friend, and the beauty of her is that all of us, her circle, are all such amazingly different people and we are all drawn to her for a different reason and she is a different thing to each of us.
To me, she is calm and quiet and giggles and sleepovers and hangovers. She is, quite possibly, the only person alive today who has met the real me, the total me, the unguarded, honest, raw me. And she hasn't run just yet.
Anyway, my point here is that today your birthday, Molly, and once again I managed to not be there to celebrate with you. If I was there, I would most likely dump some Jameson down your throat and then make you listen to Radiohead until you cried. But I'm not there, so this will have to do. I love you, baby, I love you so much it really truly hurts. You make me the luckiest girl alive. You inspire me and move me every day of my life. You are the radest person I have ever known, and I can't wait to be little old ladies in rocking chairs slamming Hot Toddies with you.
It's gonna be epic.
We were gangly with the bad hair and the budding taste in music and the angsty poetry when we met. We dug each other; not overly, but just enough. Occasionally, I would glance over at her from across the classroom/cafeteria/friends basement, and I would see something. I never really knew what it was, but it was something and it was there.
One day, I figured out what it was. I was seeing forever.
Is that not the cheesiest thing you have ever heard? It's totally true, yo.
Molly and I eased quietly, cautiously, almost unknowingly into an epic love story that will go on for ages after us. More than my parents, more than any man I have ever loved, I need her. I love her the way I love my kids; unconditionally, painfully, brutally, eternally.
She is everything I wish I could be. She is brave, she is fearless. She is powerful and brilliant and wise. She is kind and compassionate and understanding and patient. She is up front, in your face, no nonsense. She is amazing in every single way.
I honestly, I kid you not, cannot believe that she is still my friend, my best friend, my one sure bet for the rest of my life. I couldn't tell you why she has stuck with me all these years, but by god, she has been right by my side through thick and thin. She watches me make the same mistakes over and over again, and she holds my hand as I stumble so the fall won't quite so bad and then she helps me to my feet again and again.
And then she hands me a smoke and a shot.
She's just that kind of girl.
She gets me the way almost no one gets me, and I'd bet she knows what my next move is even before I do. She is fiercely loyal to all of those lucky enough to be called her friend, and the beauty of her is that all of us, her circle, are all such amazingly different people and we are all drawn to her for a different reason and she is a different thing to each of us.
To me, she is calm and quiet and giggles and sleepovers and hangovers. She is, quite possibly, the only person alive today who has met the real me, the total me, the unguarded, honest, raw me. And she hasn't run just yet.
Anyway, my point here is that today your birthday, Molly, and once again I managed to not be there to celebrate with you. If I was there, I would most likely dump some Jameson down your throat and then make you listen to Radiohead until you cried. But I'm not there, so this will have to do. I love you, baby, I love you so much it really truly hurts. You make me the luckiest girl alive. You inspire me and move me every day of my life. You are the radest person I have ever known, and I can't wait to be little old ladies in rocking chairs slamming Hot Toddies with you.
It's gonna be epic.
Reader Comments (43)
Very awesome. Nothing better in the world than a truly best friend, the like you have.
Maggie's last blog post..http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/MaggiesMind/~3/252286169/weekly-winners-31608.html' rel="nofollow">Weekly Winners 3/16/08
Wow. This is way better than any Hallmark card . . .
laskigal's last blog post..http://laskigal.blogspot.com/2008/02/friday-fess-up.html' rel="nofollow">Friday Fess Up
you don't mind if i borrow that verbatim in about three weeks, do ya? that was just pure, unadulterated, awesome chick love. :)
zoeyjane's last blog post..http://mommyismoody.com/2008/03/15/who-didnt-know-id-do-that/' rel="nofollow">Who didn't know I'd do that?
Molly so totally fucking rules the planet.
That is so sweet :) I bet she would say the same about you.
janethesane's last blog post..http://janethesane.blogspot.com/2008/03/i-need-new-look.html' rel="nofollow">I need a new look
Thanks yo. I needed that. Just wait six days.
molly_g's last blog post..http://soapywater.blogspot.com/2008/03/total-mysteries.html' rel="nofollow">Total Mysteries
Awesome birthday tribute. I have a friend like Molly. :-)
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There is nothing like friends. I'm fiercely loyal to mine and am totally and completely awed and amazed when they are too. I'm so not worthy, but so darn lucky!
Kelly's last blog post..http://ordinaryartblog.blogspot.com/2008/03/stinky-leprechaun.html' rel="nofollow">Stinky Leprechaun
awesome. truly awesome.
the two of you are blessed to have each other.
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Happy Birthday Molly!
...and that was such a great post. Love it.
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wow, this was the most beautiful post i have read in a long time. you so got to me! you made me choke up repeatedly. i love how you said this. your friend is sooooooooooooooooo blessed to have YOU. this is the best kind of friend to have. happy for you and your buddy, kathleen
so grateful to be mormon's last blog post..http://sogratefultobemormon.wordpress.com/2008/03/16/peace-a-walk-in-the-sun/' rel="nofollow">peace ? a walk in the sun
That's so awesome. I don't have any friends LIKE THAT anymore. I move too damn often. I need a hug... or a drink.
KEEP BELIEVING
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You really just have the most awesome friends! And I love how you describe your relationship with all of them!
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Great post about what Molly means to you. Outstanding.
Diane's last blog post..http://onemomsopinion.blogspot.com/2008/03/colorado-avalanche-tickets.html' rel="nofollow">Colorado Avalanche tickets
What a great birthday wish!! Your a softie, a drunk and a good friend-where do I register?
;)
TRACI's last blog post..http://mymanettasfam.blogspot.com/2008/03/sunday-devotional.html' rel="nofollow">Sunday Devotional
What a beautiful tribute to your BFF. I never really knew what that meant. I thought maybe breast-feeding feminist?
Jenni's last blog post..http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/justchickenfeed/NrIT/~3/252735343/welcome-home.html' rel="nofollow">Welcome Home
That would describe me, as well! he he...
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Nothing beats a birthday wish from a friend who can't be there.
CableGirl's last blog post..http://cablegirl.wordpress.com/2008/03/14/flashback-friday-a-girls-best-friend/' rel="nofollow">FlashBack Friday - a girl's best friend
That post was epic. I've never read such a true tribute to female friendship - you are two lucky chicks.
Don Mills Diva's last blog post..http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/03/if-just-one-woman-is-saved-by-this-post.html' rel="nofollow">If just one woman is saved by this post...
Ack! Stop making me cry.
Happy Birthday Molly! Anyone who loves Mr. Lady is way good and cool in my book!
Ree's last blog post..http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/hotfessional/KKFw/~3/252488863/' rel="nofollow">I Don
Awesome post! It's amazing to have people we can be so incredibly close to!
P.S. Bloggy love is waiting for you at my place!
MamaWise's last blog post..http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/wordfromthewise/FLeo/~3/253054792/' rel="nofollow">Thank you all around!
I commented on the wrong post because I am a geek like that so my last comment belongs here.
Allie Bear's last blog post..http://fridaynightambulance.blogspot.com/2008/03/thou-shalt-not-use-lords-name-in-maine.html' rel="nofollow">Thou shalt not use the Lord's name in Maine...
She is "the Wind Beneath Your Wings" -- Cheesy, Beaches reference that I share with my BFF of 20+ years. Good friends, kindred spirits, sisters of the heart. There are a lot of names for it, but nothing quite describes it like you did.
Happy Birthday Molly!
What a friendship. One best friend in life is all you really need.
Heather's last blog post..http://3boysundermyroof.blogspot.com/2008/03/karma.html' rel="nofollow">Karma
What an awesome B day present for your friend.. Happy Birthday to your friend Molly!
I still can't believe you met Latte Mommy.. you get to met all the cool chicks.
Kim's last blog post..http://www.joggingincircles.com/journal/2008/3/17/thank-you-thank-you-bloggy-love.html' rel="nofollow">Thank You, Thank You! Bloggy Love
That is so touching. Now I want someone to touch.
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You are so lucky to have such a friend. They are hard to come by.
Happy Birthday, Molly!
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I think I speak for all the sisters when I say thanks for loving our Molly so much!
We love you too!
love this. made me think of my "molly".... so grateful to have one too!
Aw, Molly sounds like a superstar. Happy Birthday!
Huckdoll's last blog post..http://huckdoll.blogspot.com/2008/03/kiss.html' rel="nofollow">K.I.S.S.
That was very sweet! Molly sounds like my bff Melissa. We've known each other since first grade! Happy Birthday, Molly!
Sue's last blog post..http://ascapecodturns.blogspot.com/2008/03/bernie-and-phyls-take-1.html' rel="nofollow">Bernie and Phyl's: Take 1
Happy B-Day to Molly and congrats to you for having a friend that rocks!
Tara R.'s last blog post..http://ifmomsaysok.wordpress.com/2008/03/17/conquiesco-i-conquer/' rel="nofollow">?Conquiesco? - I Conquer
i loved this sweet post and have thought about it more since i read this last night. thanks for being so open about posting this. it's awesome to see someone treasuring their special souls in their life :) kathleen
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What a wonderful friendship. And I'd say Molly is as lucky as you are...
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Awwww! *blinks back tears* You got me all revved up on emotion. I gotta go hug someone now.
They are totally going to think I have cooties.
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Beautiful tribute. Friends like Molly and yourself are simply divine. You are right, they are a part of family.
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Lovin it! What a great tribute to your BFF.
I come to you for crude, and you get all sappy on me. :) Good stuff. Wish I could say I had that one, true love like that ... but yours sounds like the real thang.
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Way cool. Happy birthday Molly!
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I think that is just about the sweetest, most loving thing I've ever read. Honestly. I have friends that I have felt like that about but that have since come and gone. None have stood beside me always. To love completely and have that love returned is all you can wish for in life.
Sounds like Molly's got as good a friend as you!
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So sweet! You both are so lucky to love each other...more than words can ever do justice! Happy birthday
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I have goosebumps now. Great post. You are a very lucky woman. Very lucky.
Happy Birthday, Molly.
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