The whole to be continued thing is going to have to wait, because there are more pressing issues at hand right now, issues like Father's Day, which is right around the corner.

My husband has wanted an iPad since it was nothing more than a twinkle in Steve Job's eye. I honestly don't get why he wants one so badly; for as much of an Apple Completionist* as I am, the iPads just don't do it for me. They're, um, too big? I think that's my problem. They're so big, and don't get me wrong, I really like things that are big but there are just times in life when you don't need it to hit bottom, just bang the shit out of the sides.

And so, I don't really care too much about the iPads. My husband, however, does. A lot. And for as much as I morally and financially object to paying that sum of money for a more vibrant Tap Defense experience, the man doesn't really ask for much and what he does ask for, he just buys himself. And him walking in the door with a brand new iPad would just completely torque me, but I know he will eventually, especially since his beloved Nook just cracked and now he doesn't know how he'll ever read anything ever again.

Someone should really invent a place that houses numerous books on several different subject matters and lets you borrow them on occasion. But I suppose that would just be the gateway to socialism or something.

My point is that I know the iPad is going to show up here eventually, and so it makes sense that I save myself the whole 'flaming angerball' thing, which isn't a good look on anyone, and buy him one for Father's Day. Except he's since informed me that he wants to hold out for the next edition of it, because everyone knows that the first version of anything is far inferior to the subsequent releases.

Which totally explains Passover. Bygones.

So now I have three days to come up with something else to get him for Father's Day, which I already find slightly annoying because aren't every one of our children birthdays Father's and Mother's Days? But I cave every year and get him something because the guy really does work his freaking tail off to keep us in food and clothes and the History Channel and his work schedule is such that he doesn't actually get to be Father a whole hell of a lot, which totally sucks for him, yet he presses on anyway. Because he's a good guy. And he deserves at least a token Hallmark holiday gift for his efforts.

But he has every gadget known to man, and I swear with god as my witness, if one more golf club crosses my doorstep, it's going to end up lodged in someone's hind quarters. I could get him a nice bottle of wine, or a case of his favorite beer, but then I'll have to listen to Cat Stevens on repeat for as long as it takes him to sober up.

I could, in theory, give him the free present that I'm currently sitting on, but that seems a little redundant, and slightly short-sighted. Commemorating something by re-enacting how you got into that mess in the first place? Has some serious back-fire potential. I mean, really. Nothing says, "Congratulations on the anniversary of your college graduation!" like a super awesome thesis writing party and what better way to say, "I'm so happy you were born 37 year ago today!" than covering him in slime and pushing him through tunnels at Chuck E Cheese.

And so I'm probably going to buy him the iPad, which will be super awesome and he'll love it until the next iPad comes out, and then he'll buy that and I'll be stuck for the rest of eternity trying to pry my children apart from each other as they battle to the pain over who gets dad's hand me downs while it ends up being a chew toy for the puppy.

Which would be a vast improvement over her current chew toy, which I am, at present, sitting on. Which, ohmygodsomuchouch.

*Schadenfreudett, that Bud is so totally for you.

Satellite Comes And Goes

I found you in 1996 and I lost you in 2006. It was your fault, it was my fault, it was everyone's fault and no one's fault. None of it matters anymore, except that all of it matters still. Because without that, with none of it, we wouldn't have any of this.

Today you'll celebrate your 11th fathers day with your children. We're not giving you ties and we didn't make you clay mugs and we won't cook you breakfast in bed. What we're giving you is us. We're taking you away from the things of man, and we're just going to be with you. We're leaving the messages on the phone and the dishes still piled up in the sink and the sand that is all over the goddamn laundry room floor; we're running away from all of it to remember each other. To remember you. To celebrate you.

But I'm not just celebrating you, and maybe that's wrong on the day Hallmark tells us should be all about you, but you think I can write better than Hallmark so for today, we'll make our own rules. Today I'm celebrating that everything we have was torn asunder, that it was stripped down to the studs and once we could see everything under the surface, once we really knew what we were up against, we started laying new bricks, one by one, together.

It was two years ago on Father's Day that we laid that first brick.  It was two years ago on Father's Day that we chose to accept it all without condition, without judgement, for all that it was and everything it wasn't, and just build it back up.  We gave each other all that we knew, which turned out to be a hell of a lot less than we thought, and together we've built new walls and figured out how to make this house stand.

You're still very much this alien thing to me, and our relationship floats through the universe like a satellite in orbit, occasionally going way out there, out of our orbit, but always coming back in again. I can see that satellite every time feel a little rain and look up to realize that there are still so many holes in the roof of us yet to be patched.  I think we need to be able to see it. I think we need that rain to remind us that we have to keep working. I think we need that rain to force us to look up, to remember that sometimes it goes and sometimes it comes and we don't have it all figured out and that we don't have to.  That you can be an alien, and I can be an alien, and it will still be beautiful rain.

The Post in Which I Send You Elsewhere

A few weeks ago, my favorite blog-crush, NukeDad, wrote a post about his father's death on, you guessed it, Father's Day. Which then prompted me to blather on about something or the other. And that should have ended it, but it didn't. You see, I just keep thinking about that post, and how beautiful and dang-gum touching it was, and even though I knew NukeDad was all kinds of awesome and funny, I was almost down-right shocked at how perfectly he pulled off heart-wrenching. And so I, naturally, nominated him for Petroville and Suburban Turmoil's June Perfect Post. He's actually the first person I've nominated, and I couldn't be more happy about that.

A few more weeks ago, Jeremy at Discovering asked me to come up with a question to ask a bunch of guys I don't really know. But it had to be a sincere, marriage-based question. I thought and thought and thought and in the end, there was only one thing I wanted an answer to. I am totally embarrassed to say click here, but I'm saying it. Click here. And please don't think less of me. It was an honest question.

It appears that Kelley at MagnetoBoldToo! (it's a font, kids) is the winner of the contest that Hubs has asked me to never mention again. So I won't, but she won, and now I get her ADDRESS. I love contests, man,

And crawling, on the planet's face, some insects, called the human race. Lost in time, and lost in space...

I had this whole Father's Day thing written. I was going to title it Mother Fuckers, in the most literal sense of course, and it had an accompanying soundtrack. It. Was. Hysterical. And then, what should pop into my reader but NukeDad's tear-jerking, touching, beautiful eulogy to his father. Seriously, if you don't read Nuclear Warhead Family, just stop reading this right now and go. It's people like him that make me thank sweet little baby Jesus every day for the internetowebosphere. Go. I'll wait.... Back? Okay. Rather than write my standard thesis-style comment in his box, I thought I'd just go delete some crappy old post no one will ever read in my archives, keeping me on track for the big 1K, and tell you a little story about dads.
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